SHE CALLED...

SHE CALLED!!! Friday morning I got a call from the Intermediary who said she had just gotten off the phone with my birth mother. I was so shocked and listened very carefully to every word. My birth mother told the Intermediary person that she was very excited when she got the certified letter, convinced that it was me who was looking for her. She first called her daughter (who's two years older then I am) saying "I think your sister is looking for me". Then she went on to say that she has thought about me for years, wondered what I looked like, how I turned out, that she thought about looking for me but didn't because she didn't know how to go about it and thought that I might resent her. I don't resent her at all... I'm so grateful for the life I've lived and the choice she made to give me life. I was in tears listening to the Intermediary tell me about her conversation. My birth mother asked if I would be interested in meeting and having a relationship with her and my half sister. The Intermediary asked me how I wish to proceed. I was still in shock at that point and told her I would have to take some time to take all this information in before I could make any clear decisions. I was overwhelmed with excitement. I was flooded with new feelings, questions, thoughts, emotions but mostly I'm relieved! I'm just so grateful and relieved that she wants to meet me!

Intermediary Connections

It has been awhile since I've posted anything new so its time for an update because a ton has happened in just the past 48 hours or so. Let me start with a couple months back when I reach out to my adoption agency to get their advice on how to proceed in this search... I let them know that I had phone numbers, addresses, even a picture and sent them the link to this blog so that they could know what I knew. I was stuck because I wanted to respect my birth mother and approach her in a way that wouldn't be too much of a surprise or feel like an invasion. I wanted to be sure she wanted to be found after all these years. My adoption agency connected me with someone who would serve as a third party in helping me connect with my birth mother. They sent the generic letter below to her last known address (some of the information has been hidden).

Dear Mrs. H,

Bethany Christian Services is a non-profit social services agency.  I am a Confidential Intermediary with Bethany and have been requested to conduct a search for a person by the name of Ramona H. whose birth date is July 11, 1953 and who had contact with our agency in 1982/1983.

If this information pertains to you, I would greatly appreciate the opportunity to speak with you.  If this information does not pertain to you, I would appreciate knowing this as well.  I can be reached at the information below and at the address on this letterhead.  If you receive my voicemail, please leave your name, number and the time at which it is best to reach you.  Thank you and I look forward to hearing from you.

Sincerely,

BETHANY CHRISTIAN SERVICES

Confidential Intermediary/C.A.R.E.S. Program

Weeks went by with no reply. They then resent the same letter as a certified letter about a week and a half ago and my birth mother called!